You Teach People How To Treat You

You know as teens we are in this kinda awkward stage of not really a being a child anymore but also not being an adult yet. Sometime we aren’t really treated the way we want to be. But hey I have good news! You teach people how to treat you. Now that being said it means you have some control over how other people will talk to you and interact. For example if you are a girl and you wear clothes that are really short and they show a little too much. You are telling people you don’t respect yourself and that they shouldn’t respect you either. First impressions are a really big factor in this. People decide if they like you in less than 5 seconds sometimes and that first impression is hard to change. The biggest deal is if you don’t like how someone is treating you, you have to call them out in the moment. Preferably the first time. Because if you let it happen for a long time then try to change the behavior it’ll be too late. The person is already used to treating you the way you don’t like. Aka you thought them it was okay to treat you that way. People pick up on social queues pretty easily. If you don’t like something tell them. Usually they don’t even realize they are being rude or doing something to bother you. Now what if it’s your parents? Your parents won’t trust you with the car or a later curfew. Okay first off how often do you listen to them? Do you do the things they tell you the first time? Do you show up on time for the curfew you have now? Have you gotten into stuff you shouldn’t have and given them a reason not to trust you? Answering those questions can tell you why your parents act that way toward you. You may not realize this but even though your parents are in charge of you, you still effect how they see you. If you act like a punk kid who can’t show up at home on time. How can you be trusted to stay out later when you already abuse the freedom you have? You earn respect it’s not free. Now to be clear you teach people how to treat you. But there are some situations where that is not true. The biggest being abusive ones. Look the above is true assuming you aren’t dealing with a psychotic freak who is trying to manipulate you. I promise in that situation you are not to blame. To be clear, you did not teach them that! People generally stick to what is socially acceptable. I had this time where I was hanging out with my Dungeons and Dragons group and they started using the F word. I mean a lot (this being a group of mostly 20 year olds) I wasn’t used to that from them. It kind of bothered me but as it continued it started to bother me more and more. Finally I said something but this was like hours into the session. It was too late. They weren’t going to stop. In this situation since I didn’t say anything the first time I was basically telling them it was okay. Even if it really wasn’t. I’ve learned from that experience and now I say something even if I’m a bit uncomfortable doing so.
Give people reasons to respect your character and they will.